Knotties of the universe - never untied

As you have read before in a previous post, I have mixed opinions on the knot. But I have nothing but kind words for my fellow knotties.

As I tend to be with just about everything, I go back and forth with my feelings on this website - sometimes spending hours on it, browing the cake gallery and posting on the South Jersey chat board. Other times I am aggravated by it's incessant, carefully plotted advertising ploys. The wedding planners, the caterers, the favor-makers, the calligraphers, the cake bakers, the band leaders, the DJ's, the florists - they have all banded together to make sure everything you are doing isn't enough. The wedding ante can always be upped in some way - and The Knot is there to always remind you of that.

But the knotties - fellow female members of The Knot - are a treasure trove of knowledge. These girls have become a small support group for each other, and it is interesting to go on the chat board and watch how some of them interact. Many know each other's first names, and are calming, reassuring - and sometimes warning - one another about their choices. "XYZ Florist ... RANT!!" one post is titled (not real florist name, of course). Anyway, it goes on to outline every mishap this bride's florist made - and there were MANY mishaps. Wrong flowers, wrong place decorated, late arrival, and more. It sounds awful, and I can honsetly say I would avoid this florist at ALL costs.

The knotties were there for this upset bride.

"I'm so sorry about your flowers, but remember, most people don't notice things like that anyway," one knottie opined. "Call the Better Business Bureau immediately," another knottie warned.

And knotties like me made a mental note to keep that florist OFF our list of calls. So in a way, she helped us all.

This goes on and on. I think I go to them so much, because the knotties are honest. I know I can go on the chat board and ask about a venue, and get the most honest feedback I will get anywhere. That is because these are the girls making the decisions, and they know exactly how I feel. I have never gotten so many honest critiques about anything. Their opinions have steered me away from places and helped me feel better about others.

"How do you know that?" Ed will ask me when I say service wasn't good at a place.

"The knotties told me," I'll respond.

Or, "I asked about (insert place here), and the knotties said it was very good!"

Every place wants you to think they are the greatest. The knotties help clear the fog.

Knotties of the world, don't untie.